Self confidence is related to self esteem however they are not the same.
Self-esteem is all about how you feel about yourself, your perception of yourself. The level of self-esteem is a result of social norms and what we believe ourselves to be. People who have high levels of self-esteem are comfortable in their own skin and are happy with what they see in the mirror.
Self-confidence is the certainty you have about your ability to do something. The level of self-confidence is usually a result of overcoming certain obstacles or working to improve a skill. Triumph in establishing these traits and skills builds on your confidence.
An individual can have high self-esteem, but low self-confidence and vice versa. It is common for one to affect the other. An individual with high self-confidence may realise his abilities and, as a result, see themselves as a stronger individual, increasing his self-esteem.
If you have low self-esteem it is unlikely you are going to be in the right mindset to confidently engage in a way that creates opportunities and possibilities for you. This is where our belief systems come into play.
Crucial experiences that help to form our beliefs about ourselves often (although not always) occur early in life. What you saw, heard and experienced in childhood, in your family, in the wider community and at school will have influenced the way you see yourself. Those very experiences could have led to you thinking badly of yourself. Sometimes negative beliefs about yourself are caused by experiences later in life, such as workplace bullying or intimidation, abusive relationships, persistent stress or hardship, or traumatic events.
Self limiting beliefs are usually formed in childhood, it is usually biased and inaccurate, because it is based on a child’s-eye view. It is likely to be formed on the basis of misunderstandings about experiences because you had no adult knowledge with which to understand properly what was going on. For example; A child is made to read in front of the class. He mucks it up and his friends laughed at him. He sits back down feeling embarrassed and humiliated. Twenty years later he still has a fear of public speaking.
Although these beliefs may be unhelpful or outdated now, they come from a time when they made perfect sense, given what you were experiencing at the time. As a child you didn’t know any better and therefore have taken those beliefs into your future.
With hypnotherapy and NLP we can work together to investigate what you see as reality. Through hypnosis we can give your unconscious updated information, get rid of those self limiting beliefs and replace them with a positive belief system that will allow you to be the person you want to be and live the life you want.
How do I get started?
Firstly give me a call so we can discuss your challenges and then recommend the right solution for you. We then develop a customised hypnotherapy program so you can overcome your challenges and start living the life you want.