RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING SERVICES MELBOURNE

I can work with you from a Relationship Counselling perspective (sometimes known as Couples Counselling) which can be effective in helping you to understand how your relationship ‘went off track’ and how to avoid the same mistakes in the future.

The experience you will gain from Relationship Counselling will help you to be able to communicate in a way that prevents the bitter arguments from developing and be able to resolve matters in a more constructive way.

Your decision may be to rebuild your relationship or, if you have already decided to separate, Relationship Counselling can be invaluable in helping you avoid the bitterness and resentment that often accompanies separation which can sabotage any future relationship with another partner.  Where there are children, learning co-parenting skills can be beneficial not only for yourselves as Mum and Dad but also for your children.

GRIEF AND LOSS COUNSELLING

What is Grief?

Grief can be emotionally painful for men, women and children.

Although grief is generally associated with the death of a person or animal, it has a much broader meaning. Grief refers to a deep sorrow or sadness caused by loss, suffering or disappointment. A person can feel a deep sense of loss whenever an event or situation drastically changes their lifestyle, or they haven’t achieved what they had set their heart on eg.

  • Death of a loved one

  • Loss of family pet

  • Relationship conflict

  • Separation/divorce

  • Loss of one’s job

  • Loss of promotion

  • Failure in exams

  • Injury or other medical problem causing loss of normal quality of life

  • Child leaving home (often referred to as the ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’)

 

 

Common Symptoms of Grief

  • Loss of appetite or overeating

  • Difficulty sleeping

  • Lack of concentration

  • Difficulty making everyday decisions

  • Moodiness, irritability, sadness, or depressed

  • Headaches or other aches and pains

  • Little interest in life generally

 

People may also experience:

  • heart palpitations

  • tightness in chest

  • shallow breathing with the occasional sigh

  • stomach discomfort

  • or many other symptoms of stress.

 

People Grieve Differently

Adult males, females and children may grieve in their own personal way. Understanding these differences can help their grieving process. For some, crying is quite a healthy expression of grief as it releases built-up tension but sometimes it needs to be monitored over forthcoming weeks as this could be a sign of pending depression.  Not everyone cries, some may bottle up their feelings and not know how to express how they feel, if you are concerned, please seek help early.  It is possible too that a person may return to their normal life quite quickly following a personal loss and feel that they have coped very well only to find that a few months (or even a few years) later, symptoms of grief may surface.

 

Common Myths About Grief

If a person appears to be reasonably happy and coping OK on the 'outside' it is often assumed by those around them that they are coping well with their grief and loss. Not So! A grieving person may be able to put on a brave face for the outside world but inwardly they are often being torn apart by feelings of:

  • emptiness and loneliness 

  • frustration or anger

  • sadness, depression or isolation

  • being overwhelmed by guilt

  • a state of confusion 

Another myth is that the grieving stage should last only 3 or 6 months.  Grief knows no time restraints. For some the feelings of grief do heal with time but may re-surface again for a short while at an anniversary or as a special event comes around. For others there is no respite, their grief deepens and plunges them into despair – they struggle to adjust to their personal loss.  Recovering from grief can be a painful process of healing. Seek help early – contact me now to avoid your depressed mood deepening into despair.

Contact Christine on 0403 607 978 or send me an email at cpmindtherapies@gmail.com

 

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